Believe it or not, there seems to be a holiday, newly formed, called UnValentine’s Day. From all that I can surmise, it started as a joke. My internet searching to find the root of this new “holiday” led me to one or two sites dripping with sarcasm. That said, the idea of celebrating an “alternate” holiday on Valentine’s Day is catching on among some people; bitter singles being the most vocal of the groups.
Some of the people encouraged to celebrate this day include:
* Men whose wives have put on more than thirty pounds since they were married.
* Women whose husbands have put on more than forty pounds since they were married.
* People who plan to leave their partners right after Valentine’s Day .
* Married couples who stay together ‘for the kids’.
These and others are encouraged to honor the day by such activities as sending UnValentine’s cards, having black roses delivered and wearing an UnValentine t-shirt.
I’m not at all surprised, actually, that it has come to this. Human beings have struggled with the idea of love through the ages. We seem to be, in some manner, “hard-wired” with this notion of “true love” which we desire both to receive and to give. Many spend their entire lives looking for true love, and some spend the end of their days bitter and withdrawn from the weariness and frustration of the search. The tragic aspect in all of this is that most people search for love and fail to find it because they look for love amiss.
Love, true love, is seldom found online, in taverns or at the grocery store. Truth be told, none of us will know true love until we develop a relationship with The One True Lover: God. The Apostle, John, writes this about love and God:
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. (1 John 4:7-11 NKJV)
As I said, it doesn’t surprise me that those “not born of God” would have difficulty celebrating a holiday that honors love. It makes perfect sense that such people would embrace an “UnValentine’s Day.” What I have trouble understanding is when God’s children fail to live in love. To paraphrase what John wrote, how can we claim that we know God if we don’t show love for one another?
Jesus put this into the form of a new commandment when he said, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34-35 NKJV)
Just as the month of January is a great time to take stock of progress made in the previous year and establish or refresh our list of goals for the new year, February is the perfect month to be reminded that God is love, that His example to us – manifest in Jesus – is love, and that His expectations of us include loving Him and each other. So, how’s your love? Don’t be a cynical UnValentine, instead be intentional as you share God’s love with others. Remember, they will know that we are His by our love.
Praying for your love this month,